Walking the path

This is not a photo of one of the wanted “London Bomber”… It is just me preparing for a trip to London.

7^th July 2005, London Tube system and a bus was bombed. More than 50 peopled died, including 4 suspected suicide bombers. The Metropolitan Police (Police in London), adopted a shot to kill policy to deal with terrorist and suicide bomber. 2 weeks after the London Tube Bomb, an innocent Brazilian man was shot dead in the Tube. He was shot more than 5 times at close range on the head by plain cloth policemen.

Bellow is a list of advices given by my friends before I left for London.

1. Don’t go on the tube! (How am I supposed to travel?)

2. Don’t carry a backpack. (but I need to.)

3. 3. If backpack is absolutely necessary, carry a transparent one so that Police can see that u don’t have a Bomb. (hehe… that sound like those used by 16 y.o. Jap Girls)

4. Don’t wear thick padded jacket, the police may think that you are carrying a bomb under your jacket. (is ok… it is not that cold in London now, 17 C during the day) 

5. For Heaven sake, shave that ugly moustache! Don’t look like Osama! (OK… time to shave.)

6.Get a plastic surgery, don’t look like an Asian! (Michael Jackson… any recommendation?)

Well… well… hopefully next week I am still around to blog…

Dysphasia is impairment of speech usually secondary to brain injury.

Imagine… You are a teenager. Full of life, full of potential, full of ideas and idealism. One day, you fell and knock your head so hard that you have a brain injury. Luckily, after the injury, you are still physically able; the only thing that is abnormal is your speech.

You have dysphasia.

You know very well the things that you wanted to say, but u just can’t say it out. You know what u wanted, but u just can’t find the right words to describe what you wanted.

For example, breakfast time, you wanted cereal with milk. You may not be able to say “cereal” or “milk”. Worse still, u may ask for “cereal in lots of BLOOD”.

Obviously, people with dysphasia find it difficult to get want they wanted. It is very frustrating.

The ability to express our self is a fundamental need. Understanding dysphasia, enable us to understand the frustration of unfortunate groups of people who do not get to voice their opinions for whatever reasons.

Having said that, for fortunate one like us, who can have the ability and chances to put across our ideas, it is important that we remember, we have to be responsible for our speech and actions.

I am reminding myself, as a doctor, I have the responsibility of keeping patient’s confidentiality. Bloging about hospital life, but keep the confidentiality!

Tried to leave this as a comment bellow my previous post, but Friendster would not let me do so. Actually I cannot post any comment in my friend’s page as well. If not for the problem of posting comments, I am sure my friends out there have lots to say about this topic.

Thanks Lai Ling! I think you just hit the right spot! There should not be a conscious decision to change…. Changes should be spontaneous… 2 person in love will grow to suit and complement each other over time. Changes do happen, but it is gradual and spontaneous.

Jo… I have to agree that CH do need a timely overhaul, especially with the clothing. It is happening, slowly but surely. CH is (trying to) growing into a young professional image.

Conclusion is, in a relationship, people do change to complement (or accommodate) each other. Trying too hard to change is probably not recommended.

Many people ask me this question before. Full of ego, obviously the answer is no! Why should I ever change because of a girl, if she like me, she should like me the way I am…

Not too long ago, someone ask me this question again. I gave the same answer… But after that, the question keeps popping up in my mind. Will I ever change because of a girl?

To change by definition, there must be an “old self” which later transform into a “new self”.

What is self? What make up “self”? I think most people will agree that the body and the mind are the two main components to an identity.

So does the identity of self changes? Is there a constant or permanent self that never changes?

Physically, our body changes all the time. Microscopically, cells that make up our body die and new cells get form all the time. Our appearance also changes with time; we do get old, get fat, and get tan, the body is never the same at anytime.

The other component of self would be our mind. The way we think and behave, is shape by our life experience and environment. People often change their mind after certain experience. And it is well known that environment do affect the way people think and behave as well.

In other words, our body and mind always changes with time, “self” is always evolving. So if there is no permanent self, what is the big deal about changing?? It happens all the time anyway…

Since we have work out that there is no problem with the changing self image, the problem must lie with the second part of the question, ie “for a girl”.

I suppose there are a lot of issues with ego; why should I change because of you?

But if we would sit down and think this through… In a relationship, there are interactions between 2 individual, you share some experience together, and you live in a similar environment. All this will influence the evolution of your “future self”. You would have changed because of each other anyway.

So… where is the problem? Am I missing a point??? Will I ever change for a girl?

Changed… Now I grow a moustache

To blog is a foreign idea to me. Never blog before; but there is always a first time.

I suppose everyone blog for their own reasons. For the past few days I have the urge to write and get published. Bloging is the easiest way to do so…

Writing is a form of communication. A very powerful form of communication, the bible and the Quran are 2 examples of writing that had change the world… I am not seeking to change the world…

More importantly, I always find writing very therapeutic. Writing is a way to sort out my thoughts; it is a way to communicate with my inner self, a way to reflect on my life.